Always #Keep It Real: New Moon Girls Lead

We Never Photoshop Girls or Women

Media by and about and supportive of real girls is why New Moon Girls exists. That sums up our mission and our work. Our passion and our vision, year in and year out.

It’s why my daughters and I created the print magazine led by the Girls Editorial Board way back in 1992. It’s why we added the safe social network in 2008 and the e-magazine in May.

It’s why we’ve never photoshopped an image of a girl or woman.  NEVER.  And we never will.

Miss Representation, Spark Summit, I Am That Girl and LoveSocial launched the #KeepItReal campaign to tell other magazines–the vast majority of magazines–that they should pledge to publish one feature per issue with non-photoshopped images.

We support the campaign wholeheartedly. Change in mega-media is greatly needed and very welcome. At the same time we don’t want the attention focused on the problem of mega-media to miss the significance that New Moon Girls and a few others have always done the right thing by not photoshopping.

Why have we gone against the industry norm and never photoshopped? Because a photoshopped image weakens the believability of any article it accompanies. I can’t trust an article about “feeling confident” when it includes photos of airbrushed, flawless-looking girls.

Girls can’t trust those articles either. And seeing them in magazine after magazine can sadly make a tween or teen girl question her own accurate perception of reality. The photoshopped images undermine the nurturing and healthy messages that the magazines claim they are putting forward.

See how 12-year-old Ava says it affects her. 

Instead, New Moon Girls uses photos and illustrations of girls as they are in daily life. We know how important it is for girls to see themselves and others like them in the media that influences their thoughts and dreams.

As the Geena Davis Institute for Gender in Media says, “If She Can See It, She Can Be It.”  Of course, when what girls see is photoshopped fake perfection, they can never “be it.” And we don’t want them to!

New Moon Girls helps girls accept and value themselves for who they are–imperfections and all. They CAN be what they see in our publications and on our social network. It’s true and it’s real. Always.

Girls deserve nothing less. And our goal is to give them everything they deserve to get from media: inspiration, support, community, new perspectives, more understanding of the world, articles and images that respect them and give them courage.

See what Ava & I mean by getting a gift copy of our current magazine from the link on our Facebook page. 

Coming of Age Resources

Coming of Age for a girl is often assumed to mean getting her first menstrual period. That is a very important occasion but there are also many other coming of age landmarks that we can honor and celebrate with rituals small or large.

I think of Coming of Age as marking the transition from childhood to adulthood, so of course it really doesn’t happen at one specific time. It’s a long series of learning responsibility and gaining self-sufficiency.

As parents we can choose the events and rituals that we emphasize as coming of age for our children. From birthdays to first day of pre-school, to losing a baby tooth, to riding a two-wheel bike. to learning to read, etc., etc.

My daughters always preferred smaller rituals to big elaborate ones. When they got their first periods they didn’t want a party so I did something special with just me & them, tailored to the interests of the individual.

Resources on Coming of Age Rituals:

Articles at Daughters.com

Michelle’s Rite of Passage Story

Wikipedia Article

Rite of Passage Journeys

Going on 13 Film

What resources do you recommend?

Change Girls’ Sexualization in Media: Where to Start? Twitter Chat Dec 5 #girlsnow

Sexualization of girls in media is increasing. Parents want practical ways to counter the harmful effects. A Twitter chat Dec 5 – 8.30 pm cst #girlsnow will help. ABC-TV’s 20/20 called the segment “Too Young to Be Sexy?”  It focused on parents who sexualized their young daughters to help them compete in girls’ beauty pageants.

The segment included great comments from Dana Edell of Spark Summit – one of New Moon Girls’ sister organizations who support girls, young women and parents in fighting against the increasing sexualization of girls in media.

Sadly, the 20/20 segment stopped stop of talking about the solutions offered by a growing group of small businesses and non-profits including: American Psychological Association, Pigtail Pals, Shaping Youth, SheHeroes, Powered by Girl, Hardy Girls, Princess Free Zone,  Girls Inc., Geena Davis Institute, About-Face, Girl Scouts of the USA, and more.

So we’re going to help you with solutions!  Join us Dec 5 at 6.30 pm pst – 7.30 mst, 8.30 cst, 9.30 est for the #girlsnow twitter & blog chat on solutions that parents, teachers and youth workers can use every day.

We want to hear your solutions then, too!

Monday Dec 5  at 9.30 pm est/8.30 cst/7.30 mst/6.30 pst for a chat on Twitter. Follow hash tag  #girlsnow. Add it to the end of your tweets so we can see your question or comment. 

Before the chat  follow:

  • @Nancy_Newmoon
  • @PigtailPals
  • @BeABetterWoman
  • @AudreyBrashich
  • @DrRobyn

and others on the list below .

If you’re not on Twitter you can still participate live on my blog by clicking this sentence. We want to hear from you!

If you can’t make it live, the transcript will be available afterward at my blog.

My #GirlsNow c0-advocates are:

Amy Harman of Becoming A Better Woman

Dr. Robyn Silverman, author of Good Girls Don’t Get Fat

Melissa Wardy of Pigtail Pals

Audrey Brashich, author of All Made Up

More participants in this special chat are:

Amy Jussel, Founder of Shaping Youth, @shapingyouth

Lyn Mikel Brown, Professor, Colby College,  author of Packaging Girlhood, co-founder of SPARK and Hardy Girls Healthy Women, @lynmikel

Dana Edell,  @sparksummit

Megan Williams, Executive Director, Hardy Girls Healthy Women, @hghw

Jennifer Shewmaker, Professor, Abilene Christian University, @drjenshewmaker

Jennifer Berger, Founder of About-Face, @aboutfacesf

 

All I Want for the Holidays is Body Gratitude

As the holidays approach I’m already hearing friends worry about how much they’ll eat at Thanksgiving, Hanukkah and Christmas feasts.  It’s a topic that pops up every year at this time in every group of women I know. It’s a strangely negative backdrop to the overall messages of abundance and gratitude during the winter holidays.

And it has a negative effect on girls who overhear and recreate the conversations of their moms, grandmas, aunts and teachers. It’s a shame to teach girls, through our own example, that abundance and gratitude are the hallmarks of the season EXCEPT when it comes to food and their bodies. Then they are supposed to deny themselves abundance and criticize themselves and their bodies.

I say it’s time to replace the self-torment with actual gratitude for our bodies.  We need to say out loud, in the hearing of girls, that we’re grateful for our bodies and all they do. And then we need to repeat it just as often as we used to repeat our self-bashing scripts about “being bad” for eating certain foods.

Tonight we’re chatting on Twitter and this blog about this – sharing tips and changing the messages we pass on to girls.  A few of the things we’ll be talking about:

  • What common things do you hear women say about our bodies during winter holiday season?
  • What do you want to tell the girls you love about body image during the holidays?
  • Why do so many holiday season conversations between women focus on weight and body image?
  • How can we show girls that we love and respect our and their bodies regardless of size, shape, disability, etc.?
  • How can we shift the holiday season conversation to be about body gratitude, not self-bashing?
  • What words do you like best to express body gratitude in Nov & Dec?

To talk with other parents about how to help girls be grateful for their body, especially during the holidays, join me and four other awesome advocates for girls on Nov 10.

Thursday Nov 10  at 9pm est/8 cst/7 mst/6 pst for a chat on Twitter. Follow hash tag  #girlsnow. Add it to the end of your tweet so we can see your question or comment. 

Before the chat  follow @Nancy_Newmoon, @PigtailPals, @BeABetterWoman, @AudreyBrashich, @DrRobyn .

If you’re not on Twitter you can still participate live on my blog. We want to hear from you!

If you can’t make it live, the transcript will be available afterward at my blog.

My c0-advocates are:

Amy Harman of Becoming A Better Woman

Dr. Robyn Silverman, author of Good Girls Don’t Get Fat

Melissa Wardy of Pigtail Pals

Audrey Brashich, author of All Made Up

Girls Now: Halloween Sexualization Hurts Imagination

via SheHeroes.org

Halloween was one of my very favorite holidays with Nia & Mavis. I loved it all, from helping them create costumes, to carve pumpkins, to visit the neighbors for treats. It’s totally fun to dress up and pretend to be a different person, an animal, your fave food, a character from a book or comic, whatever you want to imagine being.

But in the past decade the fun of wearing a costume has become a tighter and tighter straightjacket of sexualization for girls. While sex fantasy has long been part of adult costumes, the costumes now being marketed to girls ages 4 and up disturb me with the exploitiveness that’s pouring down on young kids. The store-bought choices are highly sexualized and play on adult fantasies, bringing porn to mind, rather than kids’ imaginations and wide horizons.

This is a terrible loss for girls. Instead of using their own fantastic imaginations to come up with, and even make, a costume, they’re marketed the message that they should just be something sexy.Two parts of this are awful:

  • Girls are told to be some “thing” rather than some “one.” It makes them into objects, not people.
  • Girls’ imaginations are crippled by the narrow, outdated, powerless roles the costumes imply.

Try a few on for size. The Monster High costume that Peggy Orenstein found at Toys R Us. Or the Convict Cutie Dr. Jennifer Shewmaker saw in her local costume shop.

Then, just for a breather, get inspired by wonderful costume ideas on SheHeroes and the idea of an Astronaut Makeover on Princess Free Zone. Those sound like they’d be actual fun to me, not the cause of a difficult conversation about why sexy isn’t appropriate for a girl’s costume.

To talk with other parents about how we can help our kids understand, and successfully fight back against the marketing of sexualized costumes for kids, join me and four other awesome advocates for girls on October 13.

Thursday October 13  at 9pm est/8 cst/7 mst/6 pst for a chat on Twitter. Follow hash tag  #girlsnow. Add it to the end of your tweet so we can see your question or comment. 

Before the chat  follow @Nancy_Newmoon, @PigtailPals, @BeABetterWoman, @AudreyBrashich, @DrRobyn .

If you’re not on Twitter you can still participate live on my blog. We want to hear from you!

If you can’t make it live, the transcript will be available afterward at my blog.

My c0-advocates are:

Amy Harman of Becoming A Better Woman

Dr. Robyn Silverman, author of Good Girls Don’t Get Fat

Melissa Wardy of Pigtail Pals

Audrey Brashich, author of All Made Up

 

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