Should We Shield Kids After Boston Blasts?

2013 Boston Marathon winner Rita Jeptoo from myajc.com

2013 Boston Marathon winner Rita Jeptoo from myajc.com

 

It feels like we just did this. And it’s very hard to have to do it yet again. Sharing our re-broken hearts and our care for strangers hurt by a violent tragedy.

Listening to and talking with kids to help process their feelings after a scary public event. Admitting to ourselves and our kids that terrible things happen without reason in our world. All this is daunting and exhausting for parents, especially when it means talking about actions we’d rather kids never, ever had to know anything about.

Most recently, before April 15, 2013,  here in the U.S. it was the Steubenville, Ohio trial of teens found guilty of assaulting a girl. Before that it was the Chicago teen killed in a park only days after marching with her band at President Obama’s inauguration. Before that it was the Sandy Hook school attack.

Just listing those three events brings up a self-protective feeling of numbness in me. Just like the three events above, I didn’t personally know anyone hurt yesterday at the Boston Marathon finish line. So can’t I just ignore all the pain and unanswerable questions this brings up? Why not try to shield our kids from thinking about it if they don’t have a personal connection?

My answer, hard as it is, is that I can’t ignore the pain and questions. I can’t shut down my feelings and turn away from those who are scared by it. And I can’t support shielding most kids (older than five) from hearing about it either. Even though it will be difficult to talk about with them.

Here’s why. More than anything we parents and grandparents need to practice emotional honesty and resilience ourselves. And we need to allow our children the experiences to help them be resilient. Resilience is like a muscle that can only get stronger with use. This means allowing kids to feel sadness, fear, lack of control, frustration, failure, confusion, and a host of other unpleasant feelings.

Resilience comes from having those kinds of feelings and doing whatever’s needed to come through them to the other side and heal.  Amazingly, most kids can do this on their own, even without adult help. But we don’t need to leave them alone with it. Resilience in kids is strengthened even more when there are adults who will listen to the feelings and help the child find ways to work through them.

This is how we can help our kids both keep their compassionate open hearts and be resilient. Then they can eventually think about, and do, what they can to change whatever can be changed to make our world safer, more fair, and more just.

Elizabeth Weise on USA Today  and Sasha Emmons on iVillage give lots of specific tips on talking with kids about public tragedies that are age-appropriate and easy to use if you feel they fit your child.

 

Celebrate International Women’s Day With New Moon Girls!

 


New Moon Girls Media

Celebrate International Women's Day With New Moon Girls

 

On International Women’s Day, girls, boys, women and men from around the world celebrate the political and social achievements that women have made. At New Moon Girls, it’s an official holiday to celebrate the women and girls in our lives!  It is also a day to support women and girls in the changes that still need to be made when it comes to true equality for everyone in the world.

In Iceland, women have a tradition of wearing red socks and marching through the streets. Read the amazing story about how it originated! In celebration of IWD, the staff of NMG is wearing red sock to show our support.

Join us in today’s celebration! Send us your “red socks” pictures on our Facebook page, and share with us on Twitter, Pinterest, and Google+! We can’t wait to see you all showing your support in solidarity with women and girls!

New Moon Girls member, Rachel has suggested many ways you, your family and friends can celebrate today:

  • Send out an email to all your awesome girl friends and family to tell them how much you appreciate them.
  • Send a NMG “You Are Beautful” e-card to your friends.
  • Take a picture of yourself and your friends or relatives celebrating (and share it with us!).
  • Write a poem about how wonderful women are.
  • Write a story about one of the wonderful women or girls in your life.

Around the globe, women and men gather on bridges, an event called Join Me On The Bridge, to support a call for peace and equality for women in war torn countries. NMG Online Editor, Megan Fischer-Prins shared her experience with Join Me On The Bridge in 2010.

How will you celebrate International Women’s Day today?  Share your pictures, videos, and stories with us on our Facebook, Google+,Pinterest and Twitter.

Inspire everyone in your life to support girls and women worldwide on this very special day!

 

 

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P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

NMG’s Girl Of The Year: Malala Yousafzai!

New Moon Girls Media

 

Malala Yousafzai is the first annual NMG Girl of the Year. We’re honoring her for her courage in speaking up for girls’ rights. She’s been fighting for girls’ right to education since she was 11.

March/April 2013 Cover Image

Special thanks to artist, Heather Sisson for designing the art for our March/April cover! Heather was born and raised in South Kingstown, Rhode Island. Living only seven minutes from the closest beach, Heather spent most of her time inside drawing and daydreaming. She illustrates with watercolor, gesso, magazine paper and acrylic. To see more of her work visit http://www.heathersisson.com

Now 15, she was nearly killed in 2012 because of demanding that right for herself and all girls. But her brave struggles have paid off. People around the world are outraged by the attack on her. And support for girls’ schools in Malala’s country of Pakistan and elsewhere is getting bigger every day.

Find out more about Malala and other girl-activists in our March/April 2013 issue and on NewMoon.com!

We want girls to be inspired to create change and make a difference around the world, and in their own backyards. Malala has taught us that this isn’t easy. It takes perseverance, courage, dedication, and, most of all, passion for what you believe in.

Here are some stories from NewMoon.com about girls standing up for their beliefs:

Congratulations, Malala, and thank you for everything you have done and continue to do to make a difference in girls’ lives.

Check out NewMoon.com for more about Malala and how you can help girls get the education they deserve!

Need great parenting advice? This week on Daughters.com:

Does She Want to Change the World?

As she prompts you to renewed idealism, you can model for her the skills that foster change.

Teach Her to Make a Better World

Girls have a strong sense of justice–encourage her to channel that passion with supporting a cause or championing a new one!

Arianna Huffington on Becoming Fearless

Fear–of not being pretty, smart, successful, sexy, whatever enough–can keep girls and women from their dreams. Explore how to transform your fears.

Helping Her Change Disrespectful Language

Girls sometimes feel that using disrespectul language makes them seem tough. We can explore the language issue to make sure she treats–and is treated–with respect.

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2013 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.


Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

What Do You Do When She Starts Drifting?

New Moon Girls Media

Ask An Expert With Joe Kelly

Ira Asks:
My daughter now 14 used to be such a Daddy’s girl. We still kid around a lot and tease each other but my daughter goes to my wife for the important things such as boys and advice. My wife is a stay at home mother, so she is around for the schoolwork and all the daily trials and tribulations.

I always either try to give my daughter a kiss on the forehead, a hug when she lets me or just some physical affection such as mushing her face cheeks when we kid around. I really feel bummed out because I feel left out and awkward. I really try to stay connected to her but not sure if I am doing it. Read more…

Get even more great parenting advice on Daughters.com:

  • If She is Silent By: Donna Renner and Amy LynchMaybe she used to talk freely with you, but now she seems to say little. Perhaps, in the midst of the family’s bustle and noise, you find your ear tuned to a very loud silence—to the disquieting space that surrounds a girl who does not confide in you the way she did when she was younger. Read more…
  • Answering Her Questions About Your Past By: Helen CordesIf we figure out in advance how we’ll respond to questions about our own histories—and analyze our attitudes toward drugs, alcohol, and sexual activity for our children as well—we’ll be prepared for any queries. More important, we can launch a discussion and educational approach that will best prepare our daughters to deal with crucial issues already in their lives—or soon to come. Read more…
  • Getting He Talking “Side by Side” By: Christine Schoefer“Mom, please stop asking me how my day went when I get home from school.” When my youngest daughter made this request one recent afternoon, I was nonplussed. I’d greeted my three girls with that question for years, and I thought it was a great way to make a connection and show my interest. Read more…

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Copyright © 2013 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

 

 

New Moon Girls Media

 

Does she love to write? This year, encourage her to participate in National Novel Writing Month, and she could have her own novel in a month!

NaNoWriMo is short for National Novel Writing Month—a challenge to write a whole novel (or at least 50,000 words) in just one month. Girls who are 13 or older can sign up at the NaNoWriMo homepage. Younger girls can participate in NaNoWriMo’s Young Writers Program. Thousands of people participate in NaNoWriMo each year, and she could be one of them!

New Moon Girls has so many great writers, so we’ll be celebrating NaNoWriMo all month long, with chats, writing tips, our special NaNoWriMo page , and more!

Writing a novel is something you and the girls in your life could even do together: An opportunity to share your writing ideas with each other, work through writers block, and share in the accomplishment together at the end of the month.

Will you or a girl you know be participating in NaNoWriMo this year?

Here are some articles from Daughters.com you can use to help get her going:

How to Be Her Writing Coach

Writing is a crucial skill, but sometimes girls don’t react well to helpful suggestions. Learn how to help her tell her story.

Giving Voice to Her Voice

If your girl is quiet or too self-critical, suggest she speak her piece on paper. Here’s how to encourage expression.

Winning–Even When She Loses

The girls who cope best with challenges are those who learn not to take failure personally.

Girls With a Purpose

Some daughters try to do everything at once. They scatter their energy without finding a focus. Other girls retreat from extra activities and have trouble identifying things they really want to do. Charlotte Milholland addresses both types of girls.

 

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2012 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.


Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

 

Should We Shield Kids After Boston Blasts?

2013 Boston Marathon winner Rita Jeptoo from myajc.com

2013 Boston Marathon winner Rita Jeptoo from myajc.com

 

It feels like we just did this. And it’s very hard to have to do it yet again. Sharing our re-broken hearts and our care for strangers hurt by a violent tragedy.

Listening to and talking with kids to help process their feelings after a scary public event. Admitting to ourselves and our kids that terrible things happen without reason in our world. All this is daunting and exhausting for parents, especially when it means talking about actions we’d rather kids never, ever had to know anything about.

Most recently, before April 15, 2013,  here in the U.S. it was the Steubenville, Ohio trial of teens found guilty of assaulting a girl. Before that it was the Chicago teen killed in a park only days after marching with her band at President Obama’s inauguration. Before that it was the Sandy Hook school attack.

Just listing those three events brings up a self-protective feeling of numbness in me. Just like the three events above, I didn’t personally know anyone hurt yesterday at the Boston Marathon finish line. So can’t I just ignore all the pain and unanswerable questions this brings up? Why not try to shield our kids from thinking about it if they don’t have a personal connection?

My answer, hard as it is, is that I can’t ignore the pain and questions. I can’t shut down my feelings and turn away from those who are scared by it. And I can’t support shielding most kids (older than five) from hearing about it either. Even though it will be difficult to talk about with them.

Here’s why. More than anything we parents and grandparents need to practice emotional honesty and resilience ourselves. And we need to allow our children the experiences to help them be resilient. Resilience is like a muscle that can only get stronger with use. This means allowing kids to feel sadness, fear, lack of control, frustration, failure, confusion, and a host of other unpleasant feelings.

Resilience comes from having those kinds of feelings and doing whatever’s needed to come through them to the other side and heal.  Amazingly, most kids can do this on their own, even without adult help. But we don’t need to leave them alone with it. Resilience in kids is strengthened even more when there are adults who will listen to the feelings and help the child find ways to work through them.

This is how we can help our kids both keep their compassionate open hearts and be resilient. Then they can eventually think about, and do, what they can to change whatever can be changed to make our world safer, more fair, and more just.

Elizabeth Weise on USA Today  and Sasha Emmons on iVillage give lots of specific tips on talking with kids about public tragedies that are age-appropriate and easy to use if you feel they fit your child.

 

Celebrate International Women’s Day With New Moon Girls!

 


New Moon Girls Media

Celebrate International Women's Day With New Moon Girls

 

On International Women’s Day, girls, boys, women and men from around the world celebrate the political and social achievements that women have made. At New Moon Girls, it’s an official holiday to celebrate the women and girls in our lives!  It is also a day to support women and girls in the changes that still need to be made when it comes to true equality for everyone in the world.

In Iceland, women have a tradition of wearing red socks and marching through the streets. Read the amazing story about how it originated! In celebration of IWD, the staff of NMG is wearing red sock to show our support.

Join us in today’s celebration! Send us your “red socks” pictures on our Facebook page, and share with us on Twitter, Pinterest, and Google+! We can’t wait to see you all showing your support in solidarity with women and girls!

New Moon Girls member, Rachel has suggested many ways you, your family and friends can celebrate today:

  • Send out an email to all your awesome girl friends and family to tell them how much you appreciate them.
  • Send a NMG “You Are Beautful” e-card to your friends.
  • Take a picture of yourself and your friends or relatives celebrating (and share it with us!).
  • Write a poem about how wonderful women are.
  • Write a story about one of the wonderful women or girls in your life.

Around the globe, women and men gather on bridges, an event called Join Me On The Bridge, to support a call for peace and equality for women in war torn countries. NMG Online Editor, Megan Fischer-Prins shared her experience with Join Me On The Bridge in 2010.

How will you celebrate International Women’s Day today?  Share your pictures, videos, and stories with us on our Facebook, Google+,Pinterest and Twitter.

Inspire everyone in your life to support girls and women worldwide on this very special day!

 

 

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2013 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.


Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

NMG’s Girl Of The Year: Malala Yousafzai!

New Moon Girls Media

 

Malala Yousafzai is the first annual NMG Girl of the Year. We’re honoring her for her courage in speaking up for girls’ rights. She’s been fighting for girls’ right to education since she was 11.

March/April 2013 Cover Image

Special thanks to artist, Heather Sisson for designing the art for our March/April cover! Heather was born and raised in South Kingstown, Rhode Island. Living only seven minutes from the closest beach, Heather spent most of her time inside drawing and daydreaming. She illustrates with watercolor, gesso, magazine paper and acrylic. To see more of her work visit http://www.heathersisson.com

Now 15, she was nearly killed in 2012 because of demanding that right for herself and all girls. But her brave struggles have paid off. People around the world are outraged by the attack on her. And support for girls’ schools in Malala’s country of Pakistan and elsewhere is getting bigger every day.

Find out more about Malala and other girl-activists in our March/April 2013 issue and on NewMoon.com!

We want girls to be inspired to create change and make a difference around the world, and in their own backyards. Malala has taught us that this isn’t easy. It takes perseverance, courage, dedication, and, most of all, passion for what you believe in.

Here are some stories from NewMoon.com about girls standing up for their beliefs:

Congratulations, Malala, and thank you for everything you have done and continue to do to make a difference in girls’ lives.

Check out NewMoon.com for more about Malala and how you can help girls get the education they deserve!

Need great parenting advice? This week on Daughters.com:

Does She Want to Change the World?

As she prompts you to renewed idealism, you can model for her the skills that foster change.

Teach Her to Make a Better World

Girls have a strong sense of justice–encourage her to channel that passion with supporting a cause or championing a new one!

Arianna Huffington on Becoming Fearless

Fear–of not being pretty, smart, successful, sexy, whatever enough–can keep girls and women from their dreams. Explore how to transform your fears.

Helping Her Change Disrespectful Language

Girls sometimes feel that using disrespectul language makes them seem tough. We can explore the language issue to make sure she treats–and is treated–with respect.

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2013 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.


Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

What Do You Do When She Starts Drifting?

New Moon Girls Media

Ask An Expert With Joe Kelly

Ira Asks:
My daughter now 14 used to be such a Daddy’s girl. We still kid around a lot and tease each other but my daughter goes to my wife for the important things such as boys and advice. My wife is a stay at home mother, so she is around for the schoolwork and all the daily trials and tribulations.

I always either try to give my daughter a kiss on the forehead, a hug when she lets me or just some physical affection such as mushing her face cheeks when we kid around. I really feel bummed out because I feel left out and awkward. I really try to stay connected to her but not sure if I am doing it. Read more…

Get even more great parenting advice on Daughters.com:

  • If She is Silent By: Donna Renner and Amy LynchMaybe she used to talk freely with you, but now she seems to say little. Perhaps, in the midst of the family’s bustle and noise, you find your ear tuned to a very loud silence—to the disquieting space that surrounds a girl who does not confide in you the way she did when she was younger. Read more…
  • Answering Her Questions About Your Past By: Helen CordesIf we figure out in advance how we’ll respond to questions about our own histories—and analyze our attitudes toward drugs, alcohol, and sexual activity for our children as well—we’ll be prepared for any queries. More important, we can launch a discussion and educational approach that will best prepare our daughters to deal with crucial issues already in their lives—or soon to come. Read more…
  • Getting He Talking “Side by Side” By: Christine Schoefer“Mom, please stop asking me how my day went when I get home from school.” When my youngest daughter made this request one recent afternoon, I was nonplussed. I’d greeted my three girls with that question for years, and I thought it was a great way to make a connection and show my interest. Read more…

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2013 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

 

 

New Moon Girls Media

 

Does she love to write? This year, encourage her to participate in National Novel Writing Month, and she could have her own novel in a month!

NaNoWriMo is short for National Novel Writing Month—a challenge to write a whole novel (or at least 50,000 words) in just one month. Girls who are 13 or older can sign up at the NaNoWriMo homepage. Younger girls can participate in NaNoWriMo’s Young Writers Program. Thousands of people participate in NaNoWriMo each year, and she could be one of them!

New Moon Girls has so many great writers, so we’ll be celebrating NaNoWriMo all month long, with chats, writing tips, our special NaNoWriMo page , and more!

Writing a novel is something you and the girls in your life could even do together: An opportunity to share your writing ideas with each other, work through writers block, and share in the accomplishment together at the end of the month.

Will you or a girl you know be participating in NaNoWriMo this year?

Here are some articles from Daughters.com you can use to help get her going:

How to Be Her Writing Coach

Writing is a crucial skill, but sometimes girls don’t react well to helpful suggestions. Learn how to help her tell her story.

Giving Voice to Her Voice

If your girl is quiet or too self-critical, suggest she speak her piece on paper. Here’s how to encourage expression.

Winning–Even When She Loses

The girls who cope best with challenges are those who learn not to take failure personally.

Girls With a Purpose

Some daughters try to do everything at once. They scatter their energy without finding a focus. Other girls retreat from extra activities and have trouble identifying things they really want to do. Charlotte Milholland addresses both types of girls.

 

Follow Us!

    


            

Copyright © 2012 New Moon Girls Media, All rights reserved.


Contact Us

New Moon Girl Media
P.O. Box 161287
Duluth, MN 55816 USA

Click on photo to order online. Order by phone: 1-800-381-4743. M-F, 8am-4pm central time.

 

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