Lately, on New Moon, some girls have been talking about feeling left out. One girl may not be able to find her “crowd” that she fits into at her school, and thinks that switching schools could help. Another girl may find that all of her friends are interested in something that she can’t afford to participate in.
There can be a lot of reasons that girls feel left out of their groups of friends, or from different groups at their school, and most kids, boys and girls, feel this way at some point.
Every summer, my friends took camping trips with their families. All of my friends’ parents were also friends with each other and had known each other for a long time. My family wasn’t invited on the camping trips, because my parents didn’t know the other parents very well. Every year when they came back from the trip, I would be upset because I would hear about how much fun they had, swimming, sleeping in tents and going on scavenger hunts!
It made me feel very left out.
So, how should we deal with these feelings, when they come up?
Some girls on New Moon suggest that if your friends are ever making you feel bad about yourself by making fun of you or bullying you, then you should always go talk to an adult that you trust! Think about talking to a parent, an aunt or an uncle, a teacher, a babysitter – anyone who you feel comfortable with!
You can also talk to the friends who are making you feel left out!!! It is also what some girls on New Moon have been suggesting. Nobody can read minds and your friends may never know how they are making you feel if you don’t tell them! They might even be understanding and try to make you feel more included. And if not, maybe you can try to meet some new people that you can click with!
In my situation, eventually I worked up the courage to just ask my friends if I could come too – and they said yes! So the next year, my family joined the other families and although my parents weren’t as close to the other parents, we still had a great time!
Have you ever felt left out by your friends? What would you tell a friend if he/she was feeling left out?
If you have a problem OR have advice to give other girls about feeling left out or anything else, visit the Sister to Sister message board. The new Sister to Sister mentors are a group of older girls who are in high school, ready to give you advice about what you are going through (because chances are, they’ve been there too)!
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